My Cancer Scare

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Hi guys you may have noticed if your one of the few regular readers I have that I have been very quite on twitter and there have been less blog posts than normal.

The reason for this is because of a health scare, at the start of June I noticed a mole I had always had on the side of my stomach had changed size and shape I was worried as a friend of mine had recently had skin cancer (is now in remission I’m happy to say) but she had the same symptoms that I did. 

So I told my mum about what I had seen she knows about my friend and that I have aneixty so assumed that I was just over thinking it; although I was a bit cross that she was making me out just to be dramatic at first I began to see her point, I am prone to overthinking things and often come up with the worst possible sulution so I put it to the back of my mind.

A month later I was sitting in my living room with my family wearing I wouldn’t say a belly top but a top that rode up my mid-drift. My mum suddenly turned to me in a shocked voice and said “what’s that” then stated feeling and looking closer , the next thing I know she’s got my dad getting out his tape measure to measure it now at this point I’m thinking now this is what you call a dramatic reaction! 

She suggested I go to the doctors which I wanted to do in the first place just as a better to be safe than sorry procuation; so I showed the doctor my mole and she too needs to work on her poker face as she looked quiet concerned after seeing the mole and refered me to a specialist dermitioligy skin cancer clinic but made it clear that it didn’t mean I have cancer as she isn’t a specialist it just meant it hit her creitira of suspension of cancer.

Hearing the word cancer even if it does have the word suspicion next to it felt like a kick in the chest I think everyone must get the panic when they hear the c word right?

A week later I went to my appointment with the speclist, all week I had thoughts about what I was going to do if I got bad news?  How I’d tell my family? If I’d give up uni? If my care plan for my perminent disablities would change? 

Although I tried to be positive I was nervous to the point where I was shaking when my name was called out. But as soon as I got in the examination room the doctor put me at ease she looked in control like it was an examination she did everyday (which obviously she does) but she also was very personal and empathetic.

The examantion it self was very simple I’d Googled and heard of procedures such as scraping skins cells out and cutting things. What the examination actually was to have my full body exaimed with a magnification glass. When she got to the mole in question she said I can reassure you that Doesent look imediatly worrying *I brethed the biggest sigh of relief* although not worried she said it was a possible future issue as moles like mine are prone to changing so she was very through and sent me in for photos of the mole 2 far away from different angles and one with a different lense that goes on the skin. The doctor  has asked me to come in back in 6 months for comparison  but comfimed  that it is binine. 

I wrote this post because when I got the big letter referring me to the suspected cancer clinic a title that was written in big letters aswell, I would have loved to have read a real post like this to balance out the scary articles I saw on Google. It was not to click bate and i want to make it clear I do not have cancer.

YANKEE Baby Powder Candle Review 

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Hi guys! Today I’m doing something a little bit different, I’m reviewing a homeware product from the YANKEE candle range ! I personally love homeware as I think it makes your house into a home, I’m however not normally the biggest fan of candles as the strong aromas tend to give me a headache. But my mum brought this one from boots and when I heard it had the smell of baby power I just had to stiff it as its such a lovely smell and brings back memory’s of childhood!

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I liked the smell, it took a while to come through however when it did it was a concentrated smell which was overpowering when lit so at first I was dissapointed but discovered that when the candle is blown out the smell detensifys and turns into the sweet smell of baby powder that I remember, and the good thing is that because the smell was so strong at first it will be smelt slightly all day leaving my house smelling sweet and nostalgic!  Overall I’d say if you like the smell of baby powder buy it but use with caution! I got mine from boots and will leave a link down below

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New series of blog post’s idea!

Once again I’m starting of a post saying sorry I haven’t kept to my posting schedule the heats flairing up the pain in my legs and I just don’t have the energy.  While I’ve been in pain feeling a bit down and frustrated I’ve been doing what I always do and using music to cheer me up. 

I think music is such a powerful tool and can really shape the way someone thinks about a time in their life or it can even change someone’s life path with the power of lyrics . For this reason I’ve decided to start a series once a month called songs that… and each month will be a different catorgory it could be songs that make me feel a certain way or think back to a paticual time. 

This concept could be boring to you but I love music and I love sharing personal ecxpirences with you that you can hopefully relate to  and I think music is that it’s evokes personal feelings in everyone but the love and feeling towards music in general  something everyone can relate to so I’m going to do it anyway *evil laugh*

I’d love for this to me quite an intractive thing so if you could leave me a suggestion of a catorgory for songs that make me I’ll do that and I’d love to know your feelings and memory’s related to music too.

The Best Product I’ve ever tried!

 

So to start off I have a full disclosure as you can probably tell this isn’t my image it’s off the Internet. This is my first product review and when I tried to take a picture of the product I learnt my photography skills are pretty rubbish and I wanted you to be able to see it clearly

The product is the colour goddess  shampoo and conditioner made by the company TIGI as part of their Bed Head range  with the shampoo and condition being separate products but i personally class them as the same product because there from a twin pack but that is my personal preference, anyway i’m rambling so ill move on to telling you why i love the product!

The first thing that comes to mind when i think of both the shampoo and conditioner is the smell, the smell has been debated by me and my carer who washes my hair for me she thinks it smells like honeycomb i think toffee either way we both agree it one of the best smells we have ever smelt in a product and leaves my hair smelling good enough to eat!

The quality of the product is great its specifically designed for couloured hair ( hence the name ) which is why i got the product as after years of dyeing  my hair ginger it was starting to become a bit brittle . After about a week I could tell the difference, without sounding like a cheesy advert my hair felt revitalized and not only that it had a real shine to it that I’ve never had before. The one slightly negative thing i would say about the product though is because its oil infused I find that the shampoo doesn’t provide a deep clean, it does clean but with other shampoos i can go 4-5 days without washing my hair if i want too and with this one after 2 days it starts to look greasy..

Its designed for hairdressers so can be  expensive compared to other brands but i managed to find it on Amazon for 15 pounds still sounds expensive I wash my hair at least 3 times a week and I’ve been using it now for 9 month and I’ve still not run out so you definitely get your moneys worth quality and quantity wise!

I also just want to add something about how easy it is to use for people who may have a disability in their hands like me, the bottles are slightly heavy when full but not unmanageable ( for me anyway and im quiet weak) and the pump is not tight and easy to push down so overall id say its quite user friendly.

Thank you very much for reading sorry i missed Sundays post i had an epileptic fit. Let me know in the comments if you have used this product or what your favorite hair products are!

why volunteer?

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Hi every lovely reader of mine!

This post is all about volunteering, my experience of doing it and why I think everyone should do it at least once in their life. The post was meant to go up yesterday to celebrate national volunteering week which was the 1-7th of June but it a bit late due to my rescheduling of post which you can find out more about here im going to start well at the very beginning (excuse the pun) and the beginning is why I wanted to start volunteering?

I’m not going to be a cliche and say it’s because i wanted to help people it wasn’t, now it is desire of mine to help people but when I started volunteering at the age of 15 it wasn’t a big part of my reasoning for wanting to volunteer. I chose to volunteer because I was a teen with social anxiety who felt alone and had no purpose because she couldn’t go out with all her school mates, due to her social anxiety I was isolated and has a result of this felt lonely affecting my self-worth. I just wanted to get out the house and contribute something to society after months of me trying to find a place and getting rejected my mum went into Oxfam and quite bluntly said my daughters 15 in a wheelchair, she wants some independence for herself and wants to volunteer and they accepted her offer.

 

I was happy and nervous, I still remember my first day all these years later! I went into the shop which was a book shop to be greeted by 3 volunteers who were of the older generation, I was so nervous I felt about 5 years old not 15. I was first shown how to label the books it was a small shop in my town so they manually wrote in the codes and prices which i think is really cute. I used to check i’d wrote the codes in right about 3 times I had no faith in myself but over time I got more confident and did that with ease, I got more comfortable with working with the other volunteers I talked philosophy with the gentleman worker and the women were always trying to get the gossip on my love life which of course there was none. They may have been in their sixty’s and seventies  but for the first time i felt a part of something I invited to  dinners out even if i was known as young Courtney.

When i was 17 I got moved onto the tills this was a big step for me as I had to interact with the  general public something if i’m honest i never got comfortable with, I got better but the anxiety never truly went away.  However being on the tills gave me even more practice in social interactions within society which is what i needed.

Overall the confidence it gave me in my 4 years working there was invaluable and it gave me an experience that I loved and wouldn’t have had if i hadn’t volunteered.

So that’s my experience but here’s why I think everyone should have the experience of volunteering:

  • Skills gained: can be personal progression skills  but they can also be work skills that are transferable to  a variety of work places which is needed these days when every employer wants experience.
  • To make a contribution to society and help others:  I fully accept that some people cannot work due to illness or disability but volunteering roles are so varied there is something everyone can do. I had doubts I could do it being a wheelchair user with epilepsy but they made adaptions for me such putting the books I needed to work with on a stool so i could reach them, putting me in charge of stocking shelf’s that were only in my reach and moving the till forward for me so i could get round with my wheelchair. Don’t be put off and remember charity’s need help  so they will probably be more than happy to make adaptions for you.
  • You can do something your passionate about and enjoy:  because volunteering is so varied there are so many causes you can work for, it doesn’t have to be a charity it can be in a local school or family center if your passionate about education. I even knew someone who was passionate about animal care so volunteered  at a zoo there really is something for everyone.
  • Its easy to find an opportunity: the website do-it.org  has a large data base of volunteering opportunities around the UK that can be tailored  to your interests and what roles you would like to do.
  •  As always thank you for reading. I’d love to hear in the comments if you have ever volunteered or your thoughts about doing it in the future
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How mental health affects my self worth

I’ve now officially finished my first year at uni I’m so happy but at the same time that means I have a whole summer to do what I want with. Sounds great to most but to me when i hear someone say  free time to do what you want with  I feel fear and guilt.

Fear because the words do what you want offers oppunitunitys for social events and choice for what I  want to do and for me I know that the choice I make will be to do nothing. To do nothing but sit at home on my laptop because that’s more enjoyable than being at a social event where I will be in constant panic and destress due to social aneixty.

But then the guilt kicks in after the social event has happened, guilt that I didn’t go to a friend’s birthday party or guilt that I’m making myself miss out on amazing times and beat myself up about it when I go on social media and see what I missed out on again.

Overall I feel shame as in principle I’m the kind of person who believes you only have one life you should live it to the full! But in reality I just can’t, my mind hasn’t let me.

I realise this post was extremely negetive and not like my normally writing style, so I’m sorry if you didn’t like it but at the moment it’s how I feel. However im basing these feelings and expectations on past expirenes  but this doesn’t mean it is going to happen this year and I’m going to try my best for it not to be . I wrote this post to hopefully give you updates on how wrong I was and how much I’m enjoying my summer.

Im going to try my best to have great ecxpirences and see the views of this world instead of this view from my bed.

Does anyone else feel like this and do you have any tips to help? Please comment with that or anything else you wish to say.

Songs I’m sure I’ll have on repeat this summer

With the weather getting warmer I’m getting a feel good summer vibe and whenever I’m happy the music gets turned up.

So here’s the songs I’m loving sure I’ll have on repeat this summer: 

        The beat in this song is amazing and the chrous is stuck in my head. Such a perfect bbq song!

        Again such a great beat so powerfull ( ecxuse the pun) and I can imagine I’ll be singing this song after a drink or two with some girl friends this summer.

        Again there’s a common  theme with the beat here but Paramore have done it again and managed to make a really deep song sound fun and light.

         What else can I say about this song apart from please let me have a summer romance with a guy like Ed.

        It’s an old one preaph’s no the lyrical genius of Ed Sheeran but the song always remind me of summer an automaticly cheers me up! 

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          What I’d “shout out to my ex”

          If you haven’t been living under a rock you’d have heard little mix have a new song called shout out to my ex. If you haven’t heard it you should youtube it because it’s great. The sassy lyrics and powerful beat makes you want to well stick to fingers up at your exs and it’s so catchy you will not be able to get it out of your head. 

          But the message of what you’d say to your ex if you could got me reflecting on my past relationship. I have dated a few people but only really have had to exs so here we go this is what I’d shout out to my exs 

          Ex number 1:

          • You taught me actions really do speak louder than words, the love letters got to me and made me all gooey inside but looking back you had enough time to write them and make your self look good it should have been all the back handed compliments such in person that I should have listened to. 
          • They say money Doesent buy love but for my birthday you got me a plaque and a pillow both with inspirational quotes on them how sad that you had to use someone else’s words cause you didn’t know me well enough to get me something I would like.
          • Lastly please for the girl your with now tone down on the aftershave a day with you would give me a headache. 

            Now I probably sound like a bitter bitch let’s move on to a happier note and onto ex 2: 

            •  I want to say a thank you to you for many things, for making me feel confident in myself with your compliments that you really meant cause you took the time to get to know me.
            • Thank you for making me realise how badly I was treated by Ex 1.
            • Thank you for making me relize that to share your feelings with someone and don’t be worried about rejection or wonder how anyone could like me so I push them away because I can honestly say now I don’t wish I was with you cause I can see how happy you are with your current partner but I’m never going to let my insucrities ruin what could be something more long term and great.

            This has been kind of like therapy for me haha! Both identity are going to be hidden of course. But I am intrested what you’d say if you could to your ex so comment below and tell me.

            I wrote the passages above in October 2016 and the post was liked by many of you and i still love the message of the song such a modern anthem! So I have decided to make it an on going thing. So writing in June 2017 about another past ex here’s what i’d shout out  to ex number 3:

            • The romance of Christmas clearly made us both feel more than we should have or thought that we felt more than we did.
            • You taught me to trust my instincts  and yes my aneixty might make me over think some things but I had a feeling you still had feelings for someone else and I will know to use my higtened analysing of every word to my advantage for my next relationship.
            • But lastly even though you led me on and at times used my mental health issues to your advantage making me feel stupid, I think you generally did care about me and are a good guy! Everyone has faults ( most of yours I haven’t gone into here I must say) but I’m sure you could right a list of mine too. 
            • What I’m saying is I guess I should say thank you for the care and happiness you brought me at the time and not too many hard feelings we just were a clash of personality and neither of them bad.

            Speak to you all again on this post when I have an ex number 4 or who knows I might get lucky and find the right person next time! Well I can hope can’t I…

            The Vamps bringing disability into mainstream media

            Hi guys! Sorry for the lack of posts been so busy with uni, but its almost summer so it will probably go from one extreme to the other soon and you’ll be sick of me posting.

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            I had to post  today though as I’ve just watched boy-band the vamps new video for there current single middle of the night. I was pleasantly surprised to see the main actor and actress in the video using sign language to communicate. I say pleasantly surprised because i have followed the vamps career for a while i wouldn’t say i’m a fan-girl but I’ve seen them live many times when they were support acts for the wanted, and have always respected them as musicians and enjoyed their singles as well of live sets i have seen.

            Their position in the music industry from when i stated following their career has grown hugely they are now one of the biggest boy band in the UK and that brings with it people admiring them and respecting their opinions. Meaning bringing disability into the mainstream media on the big platform that they have  will make an impression on a huge audience and make disabilities more widely seen.

            What was great about this video is the song wasn’t about disability it was making no political statement just two disabled people in a normal situation breaking up or meeting up after a break up i cant decide tbh! But this is amazing making advisability visible in terms of everyday normal situation and not just hired as disabled actors just actors ( if they were actually disabled that is, which i hope they were)

            So thank you to the vamps this video may seem to some as just a video that wont make much of a difference, but i see it as visibility for disabled people as the humans that we are and not our disability.

            watch the video here

            If I were to make my dream blogging panel

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            Hi, guys! Today my post is focused on bloggers id love to see take part in a blogging panel. I was challenged to do this when I heard about Eventbrite which is a company that specializes in allowing anyone to create, share, find and attend private or public events. This was a no brainier for me to write this post I love seeing all the blogging events that are happening but I always miss some that I would have loved to go to so events being on an easy to use a website like Eventbrite would have been perfect for me. Also, the chance to talk about bloggers who’s stories inspire me sounded like a post id be passionate to write so let’s get started! Below is my dream blogging panel.

            Twitter: @JohnRdToVol
            Blog: https://johnsroadtovolunteering.com/

            John runs a blog focused on volunteering, helping the blogging community and empowering others. His posts are always uplifting whether it be joking about being bald when the underlying tone is to tell others it’s OK to embrace difference in appearance, or talking about his passion for volunteering the uplifting nature of Johns attitude would make a perfect addition to a blogging panel to make people feel motivated to achieve what they want to and have more faith in themselves.

            Anna Sacconejoly

            Twitter: @AnnaSaccone
                                         Blog:     http://www.annasaccone.com/

            I’m sure most of you know who this lady is so she needs no introduction, but just in case you don’t Anna has a lifestyle and beauty blog and is also part of the Sacconejolys a family daily vlogging channel concentrating on family life. Although most known for the Sacconejolys channel that is not why I’d want her on my blogging panel, in her own right she is an amazing influence in social media and actually started her social media career before her husband Johnathan did and this is unknown to many. She’d be a perfect example for all the women in the audience to feel empowered. With knowledge of how to be a working mum in the industry and the scrutiny, women face online. Last year she also opened up very candidly about living with an eating disorder so hearing about her journey with mental health would also be very inspiring.

            Little thoughts

                        Twitter-    @hannahrainey_
                                     Blog: http://littlethoughtsblog.com/

            From one strong lady to another, Little Thoughts is a beauty and lifestyle blog run by the lovely Hannah. The reason I would want her on my panel is to get an insight into how she has created her own community online. Hannah started a chat called #TalkMH, the chat is at 8:30 pm every Thursday. The aim of the chat is to educate on the topic of mental health and to create a community where people feel comfortable to share their experience and feel supported. This she certainly has done and while doing it helped and inspired many others, so on a personal level I’d love to hear more about her story and on a business level, i’d love to hear about how she built up the brand and community that is #talkMH.

            I know that’s a small panel but with all their stories I’d love to hear them in depth so I’d prefer a cosy feel to the event.

            Thank you to Eventbrite for asking me to write this post I’ve had a lot of fun thinking about my perfect panel and talking about these lovely people who’s links are all above so go and check them out! Also If you want to go to more events or are planning on creating your own and are interested in finding out more about Eventbrite, you can check their event management page.

            Lastly, i love interacting with you guys so I’d love to know who would be in your dream blogging panel? leave comments!

             

             

            A very honest account of whats it like to have Epilepsy

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            Today is purple day a day to recognize epilepsy as a serious condition and raise awareness of it. I am very passionate about raising awareness for epilepsy because it affects my life substantially but the reason i dont speak about it on my bog like i speak about having social anxiety and being a wheelchair user is because i don’t really know anything about it! The reason for this is im always in an unconscious state when i have a fit so i dont know what it feels like to have one i personally have no warning of it and cant do anything about it so because of my anxiety and needing to be in control i feel if i read up about it i would be even more frustrated  i have no control, in this case ignorance really is bliss.

            I cant give information on where to get help, meds to take like i do with my other conditions cause with epilepsy i just do what my consultant says. I cant even tell you what it feels like to have epilepsy.  I can only tell you the ways it affects my life.

            The lack of control affects my life massively every-time i cross a road on my own or do anything of that nature i’m constantly thinking what if i have a fit? This actually happened to me in the summer of 2016 i was driving my electric wheelchair on the path and i had a fit and even though i was unconscious because my hand was still on the stick i carried on driving straight onto the road. Because i was unconsciousness my body had no way of saving itself  and i ended up dislocating my shoulder breaking my arm and a bone in my foot. Luckily this was not a busy road and i had someone very kindly stop and divert the cars that did come away from me.  But every day i think well what if next time im not so lucky?

            I said id be honest so ill admit that an aspect of no control is also no control of my bladder. Now this is one of the problems with my epilepsy that i find bearable still embarrassing and annoying if i’m out and have no spare clothes but its ok. In my teen years this was a lot more distressing a lost count of how many times i was crying in the toilets because id just wet myself in the canteen or in class. Not only was it out of fear of being teased but its also psychologically hard when your having the conflict of being in-between a child and an  adult   and you wet yourself making you feel like a toddler.

            It also effects my life socially I cant go and watch 3d films or sit at the very front in the cinema which again not to much of a big deal but i do miss out on social gatherings with friends. The flash of a camera, getting to hot both things that tend to happen on a good night both trigger a fit for me.

            Lastly because of my epilepsy i cant drive now im only 20 so this hasent affected me so much yet but i know it will because most work places require you to have a drivers license. I wont be able to drive my kids to school or rush them to the hospital if needed.

            Im a very positive person and my anxiety and disability that makes me a wheelchair user suck but i can see qualities in myself that i like because of them so there is a positive outcome from it. But epilepsy nothing i get no feeling from it no learnt experience it only restricts who i am as a person not develops it and for this reason if i had one wish in life i’d be more than happy to stay in my wheelchair i just want to get rid of my epilepsy.

            I’d like to dedicate this post to lovely girl Amy who i when to school with and  sadly passed away  during an epileptic fit.

            Courtney

            The impact of the suffragettes movement- international women’s day 2017

             

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            1981 Isle Of Man

            1983  New Zealand

            1918 Germany

            1920 America

            1928 England

            1920 America

            1944 France

            1945 Italy

            1947 India

            1952 Greece

            1980 Iraq

            2015 Saudi Arabia

            Above is just a short list of countries around the world and what year they made it legal for all women to vote no matter what their marital state. As a girl born in England in the 1990’s it was just normal to expect that when i get to the age of 18 i could vote. Growing up I knew of the suffragettes and what they did, I always thought it was a courageous and great thing to do but i had only concentrated on England, and hadn’t really thought about women’s movements internationally and has today the 8th of march 2017 is international women day i wanted to do some research on the topic.

            Some of these dates astounded me can you believe a fairly liberal country like   France thought it was acceptable and a good idea to take part in two world wars before it was thought acceptable for women to vote?  I truly cant believe it but who was in power and left to make the decision on who could vote? MEN

            Reflecting on this i got thinking about how different the world would be today if only men were aloud to have their voices heard. This post isn’t now going to turn into a man hating post as there are some men out there who believe in and fight for gender equality.  However just bare with me here and do a bit of reflecting if women didn’t get the vote how different would our world be? Its not a secret that a factor into why the government and organizations that involve governments such as the EU  now make provisions for issues and rights  such as The equality act,  childcare, maternity rights, equal employment , domestic violence, and sexual  harassment/abuse because they want women’s votes to get into power.

            So what on earth would the world look like without those laws just mentioned if we didnt have the power to vote meaning the laws and  rights above wernt made to the standard they are today?   Young girls wouldn’t have access to an equal standard of education to their male peers, meaning that they would not have the knowledge to make the amazing contributions they do in society today.  Without the provisions for childcare that are currently made it would be increasingly difficult for women to continue to make the contributions to the workforce they make now which would have a huge negative effect on our economy and our society progression in things such as medical advancement and inventions. If laws weren’t in place to make it  illegal for anybody to be  abused no body would have control over there own body and with the rates of domestic and sexual abuse being so high towards women while abuse is  illegal it makes me sick to my stomach when i think about what position we as women today would be in if we did not have those laws to protect us.

            Because of all this after my reflection iv’e gone from thinking   that what the suffragettes did was courageous to knowing that in changed not only my life but the world and we should all be so grateful men and women because are world would be a much more negative place without votes for women. Now suffragettes gave us the power to use are voices and show our power through the law but as we all know the law may be there but it is not always implemented and attitudes have not truly kept up with the law so lets use that voice that suffragettes gave us and keep going till we get gender equality “toast drink” FOR THE SUFFRAGETTES!